This message was part of the ‘Money, Sex and Power’ series, preached at Christ Church Manchester’s church in Fallowfield in early 2018. The full series included the following sermons:
- Money, Sex and Power: Giving (by Josh DiFabio)
- Money, Sex and Power: Simplicity (by Emily Williams)
- Money, Sex and Power: The Battle for Purity (by Dave Williams)
- Money, Sex and Power: The Song of Songs (by Dave Williams)
- Money, Sex and Power: The Spirit and The Word (by Andy Wisdom)
- Money, Sex and Power: Creation and Justice (by Abi Alsop)
- Money, Sex and Power: Influence (by Emily Williams)
This sermon was based on Ephesians 5:22-33.
Wives and Husbands
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Remember You Are a Child of God
- We are chosen by God to be His people. We are holy, blameless and totally loved. To be able to thrive, we need to be fully aware of our identity in Christ. We are valuable, forgiven, restored, complete and commissioned!
- We are valuable because Christ died so that we might have life and freedom in Him, we are forgiven of all our sins, we are restored as God’s children in perfect relationship with Him, we are complete because whether we are single or married, we are living out His perfect plan for us, and we are commissioned to follow His calling for our lives.
- We must realised how much we are loved by God before pursuing relationships with others so we know our own standing in Him.
Remember Dating Is Pursuing Marriage
- During dating, you are investigating the possibility of marrying someone. Your partner should be like the examples given in Ephesians 5:22-33 – reflecting Christ and pushing each other on in their own love for and journey with God. You need to enjoy each other’s company, find the other person attractive and love how much they love Jesus.
- The covenant of marriage safely encloses the intimacies of spiritual, emotional and physical commitment.
- In dating, we are called to be selfless, worshipful and intentional. Intentionality makes room in busy schedules for quality time, puts effort into learning more about your partner, clarifies relationship status, works out the compatibilities of life stage and life callings. Selflessness works out how much you can go out of your way to make the other person happy and comfortable. It also sacrifices your own desires when you realise that if your partner doesn’t become your wife/husband, then they will be someone elses and you have the responsibility to treat them well. Being worshipful means that both of you want to draw closer to God in your personal faith and is keen to see how you can serve God together outside of your dating life.
- God is always there if you want to chat to Him about your dating concerns but don’t obsess over romantic relationships.